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When to Relinquish the Reigns

While ascertaining the competency of your potential borrower could be a bit sticky, exponentially more challenging is turning this searchlight inward and asking, “Is it time for me to consider retiring?”

Just as elders don’t want to give up the car keys that signify independence, recognizing it may be time to stop working can be particularly difficult for those who are self-employed, even more so if you work with a vulnerable class of people such as seniors seeking a reverse mortgage. To put it plainly: how and when should a loan officer relinquish the reins?

A HECMWorld reader posed this inquiry: “How do you gracefully stop doing business with someone who has become too old to continue doing a good job for you? How can you prevent losing a long-lasting friendship because you know they are not the right person to do the job?

“We are facing this problem now in selling a deceased relative’s house. A family friend who is in her late 70s, not in the best of health, and almost deaf (even with hearing aids) wants the listing. She has only sold three properties in the first half of this year, versus a Realtor who is number 1 in town and has closed over 50 deals in the same timeframe.”

Telling the truth with heart

This is a blockbuster question. At issue are not only the real estate professional’s feelings, but her competency, the delicate matter of age, and the fact that she’s a longtime friend and not simply a business associate.

Lisa Genova, the author of Still Alice, the gripping novel about early-onset Alzheimer’s Disease, wrote a Huffington Post essay describing the day a casual acquaintance asked how she was, and instead of replying, “Good,” she told the devastating truth: “I just asked my husband for a divorce, and I’m so scared.” From this raw admission grew a strong friendship with a woman who not only had been there and could mentor Genova through a difficult transition but who matched Genova’s honesty with her own. Genova emphasizes that had she responded with a glib answer, this dear friend would still be a casual acquaintance, and Genova would be struggling through her divorce alone. Telling the truth from her heart made the difference.

Of course, a chasm lies between telling the truth about one’s own life, however painful, and telling a difficult truth to someone else about their life. One way to approach the subject is to help a business colleague (whether or not they are also a friend) recognize and acknowledge a limitation that affects their ability to serve clients.

For instance, the LO whose real estate agent friend has hearing loss might comment about how hearing loss is becoming a huge problem as the number of older people grows, mentioning how challenging this can make working with reverse mortgage prospects who either don’t realize they have a hearing problem, or don’t want to acknowledge it. If the real estate agent references her own hearing impairment, it would then be appropriate to wonder whether this could be having an effect on her ability to show houses and interact with clients.

A long, clear look

Some mature workers choose to retire rather than try to keep pace with technology. Sally Shelburne, 73, decided to relinquish her job as a lecturer at the National Gallery of Art. Though she holds a doctorate in modern art, is eminently qualified and still able to do her job well, she chose to retire rather than learn ever-evolving technologies. (To be balanced, 74-year-old Joan Sotkin was an Internet early adopter, and continues to maintain a thriving virtual business at 74.)

The media has also gotten into the Third Act. In a new intergenerational comedy, The Intern, 72-year-old Robert De Niro plays a retired executive who signs up for a “senior” internship to get back in the game — and whose business expertise and endearing personality win the hearts of his much younger colleagues. Yes, it’s Hollywood, though Tinseltown does have its collective finger on the pulse of later life reinvention.

It behooves all of us, especially those who are self-employed and/or in service professions, to think about a time when we might need to let go of daily involvement in the business, or perhaps remove ourselves from client-facing interaction and reimagine our role. While some people stay healthy, active, and working well into their eighties and even nineties, these are still the exceptions. Taking a long, clear look at yourself as you grow older is one of the best gifts you can give to the seniors you serve.

 

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Editor in Chief: HECMWorld.com
 
As a prominent commentator and Editor in Chief at HECMWorld.com, Shannon Hicks has played a pivotal role in reshaping the conversation around reverse mortgages. His unique perspectives and deep understanding of the industry have not only educated countless readers but has also contributed to introducing practical strategies utilizing housing wealth with a reverse mortgage.
 
Shannon’s journey into the world of reverse mortgages began in 2002 as an originator and his prior work in the financial services industry. Shannon has been covering reverse mortgage news stories since 2008 when he launched the podcast HECMWorld Weekly. Later, in 2010 he began producing the weekly video series The Industry Leader Update and Friday’s Food for Thought.
 
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4 Comments

  1. I would appreciate additional sources for my personal direction at this point in my life. After 46 yrs. in mortgage banking at age 68, I am looking at retirement (with one eye only) but want to stay active and perhaps be of service to others. Can you recommend books, etc. ? Thank you.

    • Bruce,

      Thanks for your comment. You make an excellent point. I’ve mentioned many resources over the years in these posts, but not pulled them together in one place.

      Look for a resource-based post in October that will address personal direction in retirement.

      • Amara,

        You would be doing many of us a service.

        • Hi The Critic,

          This is why I encourage all of you to please let me know, either through comments, or direct emails to myself or Shannon, what you’d most like to see covered here. It’s your blog, and we want it to be as relevant and useful as possible.

          I’ll curate and add to the best retirement resources for our first October post, and will look forward to your feedback.

          Thanks!


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